It Was What He Said To Me by Bsorlah

I sat up on my bed just as the great aroma crept into my nostrils to disrupt my sleep and yes…it was breakfast served in bed. When we were done eating, we held hands and prayed, and then he got up to leave for work.
As a youth I had great passion for making impact, so life as a married career woman was just what I expected, though it was not as hectic as I thought.
I got back home early and prepared dinner. When he got back, we both ate and went to bed. At 2a.m, we got up and prayed for two hours. Deep down in my heart as I laid down to sleep, I was happy with what my marriage turned out to be. I waited anxiously for morning to come because the way each day went by gave me joy.
I woke up the next day but this time, I was saddened when I realized it had all been a dream. I had spent my night dreaming and fantasizing about my ex whom I “loved” and hoped he would change to become that man of my dreams…the right man for me and my purpose.
So I thought, “why not talk to him today since he really wanted this relationship to work again?”
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Here we are having lunch and he began with the tale of how sorry he was and why things didn't work out. He was beginning to get to me with those words…especially how he said them. And finally he said "Back then, we were amateurs and we didn't really know what we wanted". At that very moment, the words settled in my heart and I realized he was right. Now that I’m more matured, the vision is quite bigger and he just doesn't fit in anymore. But what do I do with all this feelings and affection for him?

See ya next time! xoxo

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What If Judas Had a Blog?

 We have all felt that sensation. You are scrolling through social media and it seems as if a few people's steady stream of negative comments shout louder than if you could hear all the new babies picture that flood your feed scream simultaneously in one voice! Those comments that mock, criticize and slander others, most often people whom the author has never met.

Explore with me for a moment what it would have been like if Judas Iscariot had a blog.

Maybe he would have talked about how "Jesus was so cruel because He cast out the money changers," or how "He made us walk all the time and He made us work even though we were hungry, we had to pass out food to other people then pick up the crumbs afterwards. Jesus is so rude, so selfish. We are carrying all this money around, but look at all the poor people around us. Why doesn't He give it away, or at least buy us some decent food?"

"One day we had to row back across the lake, and then we had to walk another 10 miles. Day after day, we walk. What does Jesus think we are, a bunch of camels?"

You get the idea. These would have been reasonable accusations that people around Jesus could have made, if perhaps, they didn't know His heart in each situation or trust it. This is how the events would have been interpreted through Judas' lenses because he had a poisoned heart, and therefore he believed the worst.

It's a good thing that Judas didn't have a blog because then the people who hadn't really met Jesus would have only seen Him through his jaded eyes.

When we read anything online, consider the credibility of the writer of a blog/post etc. Are they seemingly always trying to demean or build up? Do they spend their time trying to make lives better or the opposite? Are they experts? Is their dialogue constantly negative? 

Why should their opinion influence your thoughts? How do you know they are not simply a Judas of some sort dressed up in a beautiful website? If I do not know their credibility, why would I use my time to read their posts? It has the potential to put unjust doubt in my mind as I think about the person to whom they are referring.

We all like news, information and hearsay, especially about leaders. We know if someone were to say, "Hey I want to gossip to you about this person," most of us would not give that person the time of day. But then we find ourselves from time to time spending our precious time soaking up hearsay on the Internet. Why would we read the random post of a would-be Judas?

As we write or repost what we read, let's exercise some discernment and caution before we are tempted to pass on what we "know" in a conversation about another person (whether true or not). Would this edify? Do our egos want kudos for being the first to share some news about another? We must continually weigh what we say or write if we are to be ones whose words are valued as credible.

Let us be careful lest we become the pen in the hand of Judas.

Ron Luce is the founder of Teen Mania.

Nigeria Universities on the Verge of Strike soon!

Workers in Nigerian universities under the auspices of the Senior Staff Association of Nigerian Universities has threatened to embark on a nationwide strike over what they described an ‘obnoxious circular’ by the National Universities Commission.

The union therefore gave the Federal Government till Wednesday April 28, 2015, apparently one month within which it should address the issues or face industrial action in all the federal and state universities across the country.

The union said the circular was a mischief to obliterate the sanctity of its agreement with the Federal Government.

The position of SSANU is contained in a communiqué dispatched to journalists on Sunday in Abuja, after its National Executive Council meeting, held at Obudu Mountain Resort in Cross River State.

In the communiqué signed by its President, Samson Ugwoke, and Public Relations Officer, Mr. N.A.D. Aboribo, SSANU accused the NUC of unilaterally expunging through a circular the aspect of the agreement on university demonstration staff schools.

Besides, the union regretted the failure of the government to pay the outstanding arrears of the earned allowances and most especially the political statements being made by government functionaries about the payment, which has put serious pressure on the leadership of the union at the national and branch level.

SSANU also condemned the lackadaisical attitude of the Federal Government in implementing the 2009 agreement, despite its persistent call on the government and the Implementation Monitoring Committee for the full implementation and payment of the arrears of the earned allowance.

The communiqué read, “SSANU called for the full implementation and renegotiation of the 2009 agreement to forestall the disruption of the present smooth academic activities in the university system. We view with very grave concern, the actions of some government agencies in collaboration with certain selfish vice-chancellors to obliterate the sanctity of the 2009 FGN/university-based unions’ agreement by unilaterally expunging through a circular from the NUC the aspect of the agreement on university demonstration staff schools.

“SSANU-NEC-in-session hereby demands the immediate withdrawal of the obnoxious circular. For the avoidance of doubt, if by April 28, 2015, the circular has not been withdrawn by the NUC, the union will take labour action against the Federal Government. We frown on the overbearing attitude and unnecessary roles of the NIC in this regard.”

SSANU also warned the NUC to stop its undue meddling and interference in the affairs of the universities, so as not to overheat the Nigerian university system.

While demanding that the agreement should be implemented without further delay, the union criticized the continuous refusal of the Federal Government to renegotiate the said agreement “which is long overdue.”

The NEC-in-session warns Federal Government on the dangers of its insensitive stand on the matter, saying it was capable of completely eroding the relative peace in our universities.

“SSANU therefore urged the Federal Government to put machinery in place for the renegotiation of this agreement without any further delay.”

The union also warned against the victimization of its members and officers in various universities, and especially called for the reinstatement of 19 members of the union who were sacked at the Adekunle Ajasin University, Akungba-Akoko.

The union commended the Nigerian Armed Forces and its foreign allies for the recapture of most areas occupied by the Boko Haram terrorists in the north-eastern part of the country. SSANU called on the Federal Government to continue to adequately equip them and review Nigeria foreign policies with its neighbouring countries.

Speaking on the 2015 general election, the union condemned the hate speeches and unnecessary political killings currently being experienced in the build up to the 2015 general elections. The union urged politicians to place before Nigerians issue-based campaigns play the game by the rules and avoid violence.

SSANU also called on the Independent National Electoral Commission to ensure that the elections were free, fair and credible.

Source:PunchNg

Nigeria Presidential candidates talk About their plan for Nigeria!

CANDIDATES of 12 political parties, yesterday, in Abuja, participated in a 2015 presidential election debate during which they unveiled their respective plans for the country.

At the event organised by the Nigerian Election Debate Group (NEDG), the candidates addressed issues of corruption, insecurity, political indiscipline and impunity.

President Goodluck Jonathan, who participated in the second session of the debate and later met with youths in Lagos, assured Nigerians that the general elections, rescheduled for March 28 and April 11, 2015, would hold.

Other candidates, in the second sessions of the debate with Jonathan‎, were Prof. Comfort Oluremi Shonaya of the KOWA Party, Martins Onovo of the National Conscience Party (NCP), Godson Okoye of the United Democratic Party (UDP), and United Progressive Party’s (UPP’s) Chekwas Okorie.

The first session of the debate had featured seven presidential candidates. The candidates are the Adebayo Ayeni of the African Peoples Alliance (APA); Chief Sam Eke, Citizen Popular Party (CPP); Ambrose Albert Owuru, Hope Democratic Party (HDP); Ganiyu Galadima, Allied Congress Party of Nigeria (ACPN); Nani Ibrahim Ahmad African, Democratic Congress (ADC); Rafiu Salau, Alliance for Democracy (AD); and Tunde Anifowoshe-Kelani of the Action Alliance (AA)

However, the presidential candidate of the All Progressives Congress (APC), Major-Gen. Muhammadu Buhari (rtd), was absent at the second session where he had been scheduled to appear. The All Progressives Congress Presidential Campaign Organisation (APCPCO) said unfolding events have justified its decision to stay away from the presidential campaign debates, due to the disagreement among the organisers.

All the presidential candidates responded ‎to questions posed by a team of panelists, including the Editor of The Guardian, Mr. Martins Oloja, on issues of corruption, education, petroleum and gas resource, agriculture as well as insecurity and rehabilitation of victims of insurgency.

On anti-graft campaign, Jonathan said the solution should be more of preventive than punitive. Explaining why punitive measures in curbing corruption had been ineffective, President Jonathan cited the age-long futility in using capital punishment to discourage armed robbery in Nigeria. The President also listed other measures such as giving people a fresh orientation on virtues of honesty and hard work as well as the evil of the get-rich-quick syndrome, which, he noted, had permeated all strata of the Nigerian society.

He said the introduction of the electronic payroll system now being adopted in the private sector, was one of such preventive measures that had stopped corruption in the civil service.

KOWA Party’s Oluremi said that corruption was not an act of God but a deliberate action by the corrupt to pocket monies meant for the development of the country.

She advised that public offices should be made less attractive and lamented that Nigerian public office holders earned much more than their counter parts in developed countries.

She advocated the system of reward for hard work as against favouritism and over reliance on godfatherism.

Okorie suggested that declaration of assets by public office holders be monitored on yearly basis, adding that security votes which were often abused should be cancelled.

He also said that the immunity clause in the constitution should be removed.

In Okoye’s view, the problem of corruption arose because the socio-political economy has failed to reward competence, ability and merit.

On insecurity, Jonathan lis‎ted steps taken to ensure that victims of terrorism were rehabilitated. He said that, apart from normal government interventions through the National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA), his administration had launched the private sector approach by appointing a committee headed by Gen. Theophilus Danjuma ( rtd) to manage funds donated by private individuals to alleviate the sufferings of the victims.

Jonathan ‎said the “Presidential Initiative on North East” was another step taken to address the problem created by insurgents in that zone.

The President also stated that the Save School‎ Initiative which was introduced to take care of the educational problems created by the insurgents would be sustained if re-elected.

But Oluremi, however, stressed that her ultimate desire was for the Chibok girls to be brought back safely.

Okorie lamented the delay by government in motivating the military‎.

Okoye, however, commended government’s efforts in recapturing some local governments ceased by the terrorists.

On the oil sector and the challenges posed by gas flaring, Jonathan insisted that once the Petroleum Industry Bill (PIB) is passed into law, challenges relating to the management of the downstream sector would be dealt with.

Saying that his government is striving to create the enabling environment to encourage the private sector to participate in the downstream sector of the petroleum industry, Jonathan disclosed that a contract had been awarded for the purchase of a technological equipment that would curb oil bunkering and theft.

For Onovo, who wondered why government would “waste” N700 billion to subsidise the importation of fuel, the privatisation of the downstream sector was needless, adding that he would ensure that the country’s refineries were made functional if elected into office. He believed that once the refineries are fixed, a litre of fuel could sell for as low as N7 in the country.

Oluremi expressed concern over the fall in the price of a barrel of crude oil in the international market, adding that there was need to involve the private sector to rejig the oil sector. Applauding the success story in the Liquidified Natural Gas (LNG), she insisted that rather than contract ex-militants to watch over oil pipelines and crude oil on the high seas, such responsibility should be left with the country’s security agencies statutory empowered to do so.

Okorie said the non-passage of the PIB bill which should have addressed the issues bedevilling the petroleum sector was a scandalous act.

Galadima has said if elected as the president of the country, he would do away with the national grid by ensuring that every state was allowed to generate its own electricity.

Speaking specifically on the problems bedevilling power generation in the country which has had adverse effect on the economy, Galadima said that allowing states to generate their own power supply would be the solution to the epileptic power supply in the country and would revive the economy.

On oil theft, Ahmad said that Nigeria had lost several billions of money because most powerful men in the country were involved in the nefarious oil bunkering activity and that as the president, he would start a process that would trace every stolen oil in the country with the support of the international community.

In collaboration with the position of the ADC candidate, Owuru, also accused oil companies, the army, the navy and the police for being behind oil bunkering but vowed that vandals and oil theft would not happen under the watch of his government.

He said that he would undertake surveillance of the oil vessels to ensure that the country was no longer embarrassed as much as complaining that vandals were stealing the oil.

Eke said that security operatives would be well equipped to secure the water ways and that the oil companies would be made to live up to their corporate social responsibility in their host communities, among others.

A statement signed by the Director of Media and Publicity of the APC campaign, Mallam Garba Shehu yesterday , noted that sordid details coming out of organisations of the debate would have tainted Buhari had he presented himself to the group.

A civil society group with knowledge of the working of the NEDG, Value and Integrity Group alleged at a press conference on Friday, that a First Bank account opened for the NEDG had the founder of a private television network as sole signatory, even though he is not listed as one of the directors of the NEDG.

The group also alleged that the leading private television’s network address was used for the documentation of the First Bank account instead of the NEDG’s office address.

According to leaders of the Value and Integrity Group, Sina Odugbemi and Popoola Ajayi, co-ordinator and secretary respectively, “an initial deposit of N1 million was paid into the said First Bank account, and on March 28, 2011, another N20 million belonging to the NEDG was paid into the personal account of the said founder of the leading private television network.”

“We at the APC Presidential Campaign got the eye-opening news of the press conference by the Value and Integrity Group accusing the Nigeria Election Debate Group, the crux of the allegation being that some members of the NEDG have been monetarily influenced.

“Although the group failed to mention from what source the monies came from, we had taken a position, based on intelligence made available to us that the PDP has compromised the integrity of an unnamed few in the NEDG with huge and ridiculous sums of money.

“And watching President Jonathan reading from a prepared script gleefully as he answered questions in the debate confirmed our suspicion that there will be “EXPO”.

“Without a fore-knowledge of the question to be asked, how did the president come with prepared answers?

Meanwhile, President Jonathan, shortly after the Abuja debate, moved to Lagos, where he further sold the PDP manifesto and his development plans to youths. The event was attended by the crème of Nigeria’s entertainment industry, celebrities, students and other young Nigerians.

Source:Guardianng

Nigeria wins the African U-20 Championship for the seventh time..

The Nigerian U-20 team beat the Senegal team 2-0 this evening March 22nd in Dakar to win their 7th African title. Congrats to Nigeria.

How 50 Shades of Grey is Hurting Our Daughters

I'm sure you've heard about it - the popular, controversial book Fifty Shades of Grey is now a movie. It's been called "mommy porn" because supposedly it's a hit among moms. However, I don't want to focus on the allure of Fifty Shades of Grey has among moms. Instead, I want to talk about how Fifty Shades of Grey is hurting our daughters.

I have not read the book or watched the movie, nor will I, but I have read the synopsis, and that's enough for me. What's ironic is that in our culture, many women want to be equal to or stronger than men, and they want to be viewed as the ones in control of their bodies, relationships, money, careers, and futures. And yet, women are still drawn to a story where the female character is dominated, abused, and oppressed by a man.

This dichotomy gives us keen insight into what's really going on behind the scenes of this book and movie. They are pawns in Satan's scheme to continue to confuse us as women about who we are in Christ and what our role is here on earth as it relates to men. Satan orchestrated the writing of the book and the production of the movie Fifty Shades of Grey. The Bible makes it clear that Satan is the father of lies (John 8:44). And he has packaged up a whole set of lies to convince women, not men but women, that they are worth nothing more than objects to be used by a man all the while disguising it as power. You see, the scheme isn't all that original. Do you remember the first person he deceived? Yes, Eve - a woman. He's been after women ever since.

This is important to remember as we talk about how Fifty Shades of Grey is getting our daughters because our enemy is not the book or movie or author, E.L. James, or even our culture. Our enemy is Satan. "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places" Ephesians 6:12.

Fifty Shades of Grey is getting to your daughter through the lies of Satan.

As time goes on, the facade is that women are becoming more secure with themselves, more independent, and more assured of their identity. However, the opposite is actually true. From a young age, girls are being taught by our culture that they must look a certain way, dress a certain way, think a certain way, be a certain way in order to be accepted. By default, girls are not becoming stronger; they are becoming weaker. When girls grow up believing they have to jump through culturally-defined hoops in order to be accepted, then they continually work to jump through those hoops - whatever they might be.

So for instance, if your daughter grows up thinking she is not beautiful unless someone else tells her she's beautiful or she's not worthy unless a boy recognizes her, she is going to continually try to find the next "hoop" to jump through in order to get the attention she seeks. The most obvious hoop to jump through is a sexual experience. It may not be complete intercourse; however, there are many sexual experiences that are just as damaging to her soul, mind, and body. One of these is reading erotica, or pornography, like Fifty Shades of Grey.

The way we prevent this is by speaking truth into our daughters' lives starting at an early age. She needs to know that her identity is not at all based on her body or physical appearance. Her mind needs to be saturated with truth from God's Word that tells her exactly who she is in Him. She needs to be fully armed with the Sword of the Spirit so that she learns to counter lies with God's Word.

Fifty Shades of Grey is getting to your daughter first.

For several years I taught fifth grade in a public school. Every year in the spring we taught sex education. The boys and girls were separated, and for two days we addressed any and every question, complete with diagrams on the overhead projector, that the children asked. I always taught the girls.

The first day was a lecture day, and I simply stood up and taught. However, at the end of the first day the girls were allowed to write any questions they had on index cards, fold them up, and put them in a box. I took the questions home to review them, and the next day I answered them in class.

If you can imagine the question, it was asked. I was always shocked at how much ten and eleven-year-old girls knew, and didn't know but thought they did. The school where I taught was even in an affluent suburb of Atlanta where there was strong parental involvement and many two-parent homes. But it didn't matter. So I always gave this advice to the moms: "When your girl walks into my classroom, she should know everything I'm going to say already. It should come from you - not me."

The same is true for our daughters today. Everything they learn about sexuality should come from us. We should be the ones putting it all out on the table, even the most embarrassing or disgusting acts, and holding them up against God’s Word. Because you see, sexual immorality isn’t a behavioral issue, it’s a heart issue. We are the ones who should be getting to our daughters’ hearts first.

Fifty Shades of Grey is getting to your daughter through you.

Yes, that’s right. It sounds harsh, but if we, as moms, have the book Fifty Shades of Grey laying on our nightstands, or if we’re planning a girls’ night to see the movie, our daughters are observing us. They’re learning how to be women through what they see us do.

Even if she doesn’t know you’re engaged with the book or movie, your exposure to materials such as this affects your parenting. When we view material like this, we become conditioned to worldly behavior. It begins to normalize in our minds preventing us from giving our daughters the wise counsel they need. Peter writes, “prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit” (1 Peter 1:13a). We are to prepare our minds and keep sober in spirit so that we can lead our daughters in truth and holiness.

As Christians, we are called to holiness. We are called to be set apart from the world’s standards (1 Peter 1:13-16). This is what we want for our daughters, so it must start with us.

God created us to be sexual and spiritual. This is what we need to be teaching our daughters. For more information on what it means to be sexual and spiritual, read the book Pulling Back the Shades by Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery. Also, see the website, www.PullingBacktheShades.com for more information.

Brenda Rodgers considers herself a “recovering single” after years as a single woman chasing after marriage instead of chasing after Jesus. Now her passion is to mentor young women to live purposefully and grow in their relationship with God and others. Brenda has been married for five years to a heart transplant hero and is the mom of a toddler girl miracle. She is also the author of the eBook Fall for Him: 25 Challenges from a Recovering Single. You can also read more on Brenda’s blog, www.TripleBraidedLife.com and follow her on Twitter and Facebook.